His Proposition

Well, I can honestly say that I've had something happen that has NEVER happened to me before. I can't say that I haven't entertained the idea, but I have been taken quite by surprise.

Ultimately, a much younger man has told me that he would like to do some of my chores, massage my feet, be my footrest, clean my shoes, etc.

Well now, what's a confident, independent gal to say to that?

I do not know much about the sub/dom relationship, except that I do not believe it should be merely about the sexual aspects. Hell, I think it's not supposed to be about the sexual elements AT ALL. I believe that a true dom/sub relationship should be about one person wanting to take the lead in all responsibilities, thought processes, decisions, etc and the other person being so grateful for that direction that they humbly submit, wanting to please the one that cares for them so amazingly.

Fortunately, I've been blessed to come in contact with others that also do not believe it should be about sex.

That said, the idea of having a submissive male that would be willing to cater to my whim and fancy....... a man that would not question or debate or argue..... a man that would trust me enough not to break or shatter any part of his being.....

I find that so very empowering.

It feeds and fuels my confidence.

It makes me want to journey forth in this experience to learn, explore, grow.

Someone told me, "You can't be a dom unless you've once been a sub."

I call bullshit.

Because even though I've never been in an alternative dom/sub lifestyle, I have been in plenty of shitty and even some really bad abusive ones. I know how to give everything you have in an effort to save a marriage. I know how to sacrifice so much that at times you don't know where he ends and you begin. I also know what happens when you give so much of yourself and the person you give it to does not show you unconditional love, support, forgiveness and respect. I know that shattering. I know that splintering. I also know how to support, lift up, and help people grow. I am a caregiver by nature.

Have I ever been a "dom"? No, but I'm 99.9% sure that I would do a hell of a lot better with it then the people I see who have miserable subs that only repeat what they've been told they must say.

I'm sure someone along the way is going to blast me as arrogant for thinking I could do what a dom can do.

The fact of the matter is, the people I consider to be "true doms" are the ones that know that I do not presume to have their knowledge, their experiences or their skills. They will totally "get" what I mean by this post and though they know any attempts I make now would be going in blind, they will understand the points behind this post.  Because they see through the illusion that exist in this lifestyle. They see the depth that should be there that is missing. They actually give a fuck about their subs/slaves and would never seek to do anything that would cause permanent damage.

 I mean, there are support groups for former slaves/subs!!!

Back to the proposition that was made to me.......

I do believe I feel giddy!

;-)

Now to see if he actually reads my writings.